If you’re like most parents you probably have no idea what your child gets up to on the Internet. Unless you have vast knowledge of what can happen online the scary things don’t even cross your mind. You need to give yourself a shake and wake up to the fact things are getting worse and until you start putting things into action you child is sitting in a vulnerable position. People are getting hurt because of the stuff they see and do. Unfortunately, the Internet is such an integral part of our lives you can’t just ban someone from logging on.
There’s something you don’t realize about the online danger. It’s only dangerous when you don’t know how to stop the bad things from happening. Once you know the situations your child can get into and the ways to stop it there is no way anything should happen. If it does then it’s because you’ve not done enough to stop it. It’s probably a good idea to talk about all the great things you can do to keep them safe. Familiarize yourself with all these techniques and they should be fine using the computer.
Watch what they do
Unless you have a child that’s old enough they don’t have much business being on the Internet all the time. When they’re still young they have no use for using Facebook or searching for endless information. That makes it easy for you to sit with them and see what they are doing. There’s nothing wrong with helping them use the Internet for a school project in which they need to go online for information. At least it will save you walking down to the library.
Read what they do
Eventually they will get old enough to use the Internet freely and it’s impossible for you to sit with them all the time. If you did you would have no time to do anything for yourself and that’s not what you want. What you could do is install some special keylogging software that will let you see what they’ve been doing. Feel free to tell them you will have access to whatever they are using and it might stop them from doing something bad in the first place. If not, you’ll find out anyway.
Speak to them
The easiest way to stop someone being naughty is to talk with them. When they think they will get away with something they are more free to try it. When you’re always on their back they will think twice before clicking on a website you’ve specifically banned them from. Speaking to them will obviously not guarantee they behave, but at least it helps and it only takes you a few minutes to have the occasional conversation.
You need to question them
Children lock their feelings away and it’s not all of them that will speak to you about them. If something is going on you need them to tell you what it is, unless you’re a mind reader in which case you’ll know already. How you get your children to open up to you is an individual thing, but just remember scaring them into giving you information isn’t always the best way. If they are being harassed online by strangers or classmates the only way you might know is by questioning them in the right way.
Locking them out
There is a way you can stop them from using certain parts of the Internet by using parental control software. These things are pretty good at keeping children away from most things they shouldn’t be doing. You will need to buy the right software and install it on your computer, but once it’s on it shouldn’t take you long to figure out how to set it up. If you need any help you can maybe ask someone with more computer knowledge.
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Mary Smith is a working mother and knows how difficult it is to give time to children. She advices all parents to use keylogger to track down the internet activities of their children.